The value system one inherits, along with the add-ons, constitutes the bedrock of one’s convictions, beliefs, behavioural patterns, proclivities and response in a multiple-choice setting. The satisfaction and happiness from life is a function of choices exercised. Clinging to past impinges on our onward growth in life. ‘Unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realise that the situation is over, you cannot move forward,’ says behavioural scientist and writer Steve Maraboli.
In the universe of abundance, there is far more to be discarded than imbibed or retained. Then only can we stay focused on essentials and conserve our energy for spiritual upgradation. Considering that we cannot delink ourselves from a world led by ego, fake values and cosmetic relationships, British essayist and physician Havelock Ellis advises, ‘All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.’
It’s said, you can’t defeat your demons if you continue enjoying their company. Wisdom lies in disassociating from those with a track record of draining or degrading you. It is best to treat such people as co-travellers of a short journey, and move on.
