Kelly Barker, 43, feared she would die on the operating table if she went ahead with the weight loss surgery recommended by her GP.
She said: “I struggled with my weight my whole life. As a child I was placed on a special diet and had to be weighed at school. While the other children were eating fish and chips, I would have to eat a separate meal on my own – usually something bland like boiled fish and potatoes. It made me believe that weight loss was miserable, embarrassing and shameful, and it didn’t work – I gained weight every year into my adulthood.”
Kelly, who lives with her 15-year-old son, Josh, in St Helens, said going away to university made her weight increase further: “As soon as I had control over my own food choices, it was like the floodgates opened. Everything I wasn’t allowed as a child was suddenly available to me. I was in a vicious cycle of comfort eating that wreaked havoc with my weight and continued for years. I would try to lose weight sometimes but the only way I knew how was massively restricting myself with crazy fad diets which, of course, I could never stick to.”
Kelly’s weight also began to affect the way she felt at work. She said: “I’ve always loved my job as a teacher, yet I often felt like a hypocrite – especially when teaching the children about healthy eating and being active. My joints and back would be in agony after a day of teaching and although I’d plaster a smile onto my face, I just felt like a fraud.
“My big wakeup call came when my GP recommended weight-loss surgery. I researched the procedure and knew that my weight made me a huge anaesthetic risk. I couldn’t shake the feeling that I would die on the operating table.”
Weighing 28st 7lbs and a dress size 32, Kelly decided to enlist the help of her cousin Fiona, who is a Slimming World Consultant.
She said: “Fiona had tried to encourage me to join her group for a long time, I had to be ready myself though. Deep down I’d been worried that it would be yet another failed weight loss attempt and that I’d be made to feel the way I’d felt my whole life when it came to food. How wrong was I? From the moment I joined the group I was surrounded by warmth, kindness and compassion.
“I can’t lie, standing on the scales for the first time was daunting – not least because I was terrified I’d be too heavy for them to weigh me (they could, thankfully). Although that number was frightening – it also felt like the start of something. Fiona told me that she would never give up on me and she has remained true to that promise. She and my group have been there every step of the way. They helped me discover in myself the belief that I could do it and I now look at that moment as the biggest turning point in my life.”
Kelly soon began to enjoy Slimming World’s eating plan and learned to build healthier habits around food. She said: “Cooking from scratch every night and planning my meals was a big change for me. I started by picking simple recipes with a few ingredients and quickly discovered that I could Food Optimise all my old favourites like curries, pizzas and Chinese dishes.
“I’d been in a battle with food for most of my life so being shown that I could eat generously, cook the most amazing meals and never go hungry was groundbreaking for me. It wasn’t just about changing what I put on my plate, there was a big psychological shift too – I had a whole new relationship with food. I eat much better now than I ever have. The children at school often ask, ‘What’s in the lunch bag today, Mrs B?’ and I feel proud to show them the plentiful, colourful, fresh and healthy food I am enjoying.
“Obviously losing 18 stone has been fantastic for my health and my confidence but by far the best thing to happen is the relationship I now have with my son. I no longer feel like I embarrass him, and he tells me he is proud of what I have achieved. He is a county and regional level swimmer so being more in tune with my own activity levels and nutrition has brought us so much closer together.”
Kelly began to get active herself with the help of Slimming World’s physical activity support programme, which helps members to create a personal plan to increase their activity levels at their own pace. She’s now been named Slimming World’s Woman of the Year 2023.
She said: “My activity levels before I lost weight were basically zero. As my journey progressed, I found I had so much more energy – so when Josh suggests fell walking, rock climbing or kayaking now, I’m excited to get involved rather than worrying I’ll be over the weight limits.
“We’ve recently been on holiday to the Lake District. As I sat on top of the fell after a tough climb, I looked out to the view of the lake below and tears came to my eyes. I was thinking about how much I had been missing out on, all these beautiful views and experiences. There’s no doubt in my mind that I’ve saved my life by losing weight – and these days it’s a life worth living.”
Kelly’s menu before the weight loss
Breakfast: Something on-the-go like a pastry from the petrol station on the way to work
Lunch: Sandwiches, crisps and cakes from a bakery
Dinner: A takeaway pizza
Snacks: Crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cake, pies
Kelly’s menu after the weight loss
Breakfast: Overnight oats made with fat-free natural yogurt and plenty of fruit
Lunch: Homemade soup, pasta salads or a crustless quiche
Dinner: A curry made from scratch with rice or a homemade Slimming World kebab with chips made in the air fryer
Evening: A Slimming World Hi-Fi bar (available in groups, online and in selected Iceland stores), fruit, yogurt or a small chocolate bar
